If you like to casually date multiple women at once, throw that habit out the window because casual dating is almost unheard of in Chinese dating culture. That method of finding a partner is not widely accepted meaning serious issues may arise if the Chinese woman you’re dating learns that you’ve been seeing other women. Do they consider it cheating? No, but it will give a woman the impression that you’re not the man she’s looking for.
In Chinese dating culture, formality leads so remember that from start to finish. When you want to meet a woman, whether online or in person, be formal. There are no flirty glances across the room or casually chatting up a woman in this dating culture. You either introduce yourself in a polite manner or get nowhere. If introducing yourself in person, ensure to avoid direct eye contact and crossed arms since the Chinese consider both impolite. If possible, have someone introduce you if they’re already acquainted with the woman you have your eye on. This is how the dating culture works.
Prepare yourself for some very PG dates when your relationship with a Chinese woman begins. Affections are very limited in Chinese dating culture since the Chinese are a conservative people. Hand holding and gentle hugs are considered affectionate and aren't widely accepted by more traditional members of society so obviously, you’ll have to work up to kissing. Luckily, these rules do not apply to all Chinese women. A portion follows the dating culture to a point and incorporates some Western practices as well. If a Chinese woman is giving off those vibes, watch her body language. That will tell you everything.
Although it isn’t necessary, a small token of your affection will work in your favor. A gift like flowers (even a single flower), stuffed animal or box of chocolates is a token of care and shows that you’re thoughtful. Most men worth dating in China greet their dates with a small gift in hand. When making a selection, don’t worry about monetary value. Gift giving in Chinese culture is all about the thought.
Expect everything you say to a Chinese woman to be taken more seriously than it is. Something as simple as telling her that you enjoy her company or that you wish your time together would never end is processed differently. You may aim to flatter but a Chinese woman will think you’re declaring love and devotion. Therefore, you want to be careful until you are serious about her. Once you reach that point, feel free to say whatever you wish. Also, don’t express your love until you’re ready to wed. Those three words are equivalent to slipping a ring on her finger.
They don’t even have sex education classes in China so the country is not very progressive about sex. That conservation about the subject carries over into the dating culture, therefore, Chinese women are best suited for very patient men. In fact, talks about sex shouldn’t even enter the relationship until things get serious – like marriage serious. The idea that sex is a binding contract to marry is still prevalent in China. When it comes time to have that talk, approach it with care and caution to avoid making her uncomfortable.
When you meet a woman you’re serious about and the romance reaches the point when the two of you are talking about marriage, her parents must meet you. Chances are, you’ll have to stay at her family’s home when you visit. During the visit, be polite, display your excellent manners, bring a gift and expect to sleep in separate bedrooms. Will her family like you right away? Probably not but you might get lucky. Either way, don’t worry. They warm up to people rather quickly.